The Approval Process

We started this funny old process in April. As i'm writing this, we're less than 24 hours away from (hopefully) being approved.

When we started we were keen to learn and talk to as many people as possible to get as much insight into what it means to be an adoptive parent, something that i think we've done quite successfully to date and as a result, we've developed some awesome friendships.

Stage one was great, very much the start of a sharp learning curve. We completed our workshops and really enjoyed them. We got talking to some of the people there too and are keeping in touch with them, one of the couples has their panel straight after ours.

Once we got to stage 2 the workshops seemed to relax a little. The information was a little more intense but the participants seemed to be more laid back and it was actually a lot of fun. Our agency has a brilliant approach to the workshops and really gives us a lot of information and is always offering to support further learning.

We have learned so much throughout the workshops and have found them to be an invaluable experience, they really do go above and beyond in every way!

Our social worker is so fantastic, talk about going above and beyond, she replies to any message as soon as she gets it. That's whether she's working or not, if it's 11pm on a Friday night, she replies. She's been known to send us emails at almost midnight before, we could not have asked for a better or more committed social worker, she's amazing!!

Our home study was brilliant!!! So cool to sit and discuss stuff with someone new. Parts of it were quite tough and that left us both feeling quite tired with crazy headaches afterwards but we were fully supported by our social worker all the way through. We're able to be completely honest with her about anything and everything. If you're doing your home study, make sure you allow plenty of time (we were told an hour and half to 2 hours each time and they were more like 2 and half to 3 hours most of the time) and if possible, don't go to work afterwards.

Towards the end of stage 2 we attended a home finding seminar. Completely invaluable, it set out what to expect from approval panel onwards which is something we've shared with family so that they know what to expect from us.

We've decided that we won't share anything about how home finding is going until we have a milestone reached, our emotions are going to be pushed to the limits through matching and we just don't want the added pressure of people knowing every single interest we have or don't have.

We started looking at profiles a few weeks ago and it's tough. To look at a few paragraphs and try and decide whether or not that child/those children could be your children is so hard.

The really bizarre thing about the approval process is how straight forward it's been. I don't know if that's down to how our agency have handled it or what but everything seems to have fallen into place in front of us. Any time we've had a worry, the solution has come within a couple of weeks at most. Everything has flowed so easily so far that it's completely like it was the perfect time for us to start it all. So happy and really looking forward to what the future holds!!

So for now, this is where we are.