The prep groups so far have been great, our agency are brilliant and very supportive throughout all of them. The homework has been ok too, the first was pretty simple then the second was much more difficult but that had a lot more to do with the subject matter than anything.
Our social worker is lovely!! We're really pleased that we got her, she's very understanding and absolutely loves cake...wife got some mega brownie points when she baked a big Victoria sponge a couple of weeks ago.
My individual session was tough. I didn't realise until afterwards that she had got me talking about stuff that I've probably never mentioned to other people that I know, nevermind someone I don't. One thing felt really weird when I said it out loud and I found myself having to quickly change focus so i didn't cry but for the most part, talking about a lot of the stuff that went off was bizarre because it just doesn't feel anything like my life now. It's almost as if someone else lived it for me.
Lots of what I had said hit me afterwards and I ended up emailing her to thank her for being great. She replied to say that she was really pleased with the session and the way I relayed the information, big bonus!
Family are getting more involved (in a good way!) now, both of our mums are reading more and asking more questions about everything. Our nephews are too which is brilliant! We're talking to them about stuff in a little more detail now too, starting to try and introduce the possibility of challenging behaviours so that hopefully if our children do hit them etc, they'll be more prepared for it and it won't completely shock them.
My SIL is reading everything she can get her hands on and is attending a family information day at our agency along with me and my FIL. It's so good to see everyone coming together and supporting us as much as they are.
The only bad thing to report is a completely idiotic comment from my Mum's partner. He has a bit of a history of saying really stupid things about anything and everything and when i was discussing using different names on social media (i gave some twitter examples) Mum was genuinely interested and asking why etc and he pipes up in the background with 'Dumb and Dumber'.
He really can be the biggest of the idiots when he wants to be, i don't even think he was fully listening to what we were talking about but Mum had a go at him and he shut up. I was so furious with him and really had to bite my tongue much harder than i wanted to. If he even thinks of saying anything even remotely close to that when our children are home, i will not do the same.
Wife and i have been trying to talk more about specific situations and how we'll cope with certain things and how we'll communicate that one of us needs a time out to catch their breath (i think the dogs may be walked a bit more than usual!). We've even started talking about how we'll explain some of the more random things like my Mum having wobbly eyes (nystagmus).
It's all getting more and more real by the day and i think our perception of what's about to happen is changing and we're maturing more each day. We're trying to be more patient over all (not that we're particularly impatient) and i think people at my work have a sixth sense about it because i am being tested to my limits recently. Here's hoping that it's all good training.
We're both still really excited, nervous and quite scared but generally, when we think about how scared we are, we have a smile on our faces. It's a good scared, a really good scared.
My SIL is reading everything she can get her hands on and is attending a family information day at our agency along with me and my FIL. It's so good to see everyone coming together and supporting us as much as they are.
The only bad thing to report is a completely idiotic comment from my Mum's partner. He has a bit of a history of saying really stupid things about anything and everything and when i was discussing using different names on social media (i gave some twitter examples) Mum was genuinely interested and asking why etc and he pipes up in the background with 'Dumb and Dumber'.
He really can be the biggest of the idiots when he wants to be, i don't even think he was fully listening to what we were talking about but Mum had a go at him and he shut up. I was so furious with him and really had to bite my tongue much harder than i wanted to. If he even thinks of saying anything even remotely close to that when our children are home, i will not do the same.
Wife and i have been trying to talk more about specific situations and how we'll cope with certain things and how we'll communicate that one of us needs a time out to catch their breath (i think the dogs may be walked a bit more than usual!). We've even started talking about how we'll explain some of the more random things like my Mum having wobbly eyes (nystagmus).
It's all getting more and more real by the day and i think our perception of what's about to happen is changing and we're maturing more each day. We're trying to be more patient over all (not that we're particularly impatient) and i think people at my work have a sixth sense about it because i am being tested to my limits recently. Here's hoping that it's all good training.
We're both still really excited, nervous and quite scared but generally, when we think about how scared we are, we have a smile on our faces. It's a good scared, a really good scared.
